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When you believe you are not a legitimate
human being in and of yourself and that your legitimacy hinges on outside validation and approval, you live in constant fear. —Ann Wilson Schaef
The holiday season is in full swing and with it comes many social obligations and parties. For people with food and
weight issues, this can be a difficult time. If you’re self-conscious about your weight, you may even find yourself avoiding certain events.
When you feel self-conscious, it is often because you fear negative judgment from others. You might have the belief that you’re defective or not good enough and that you must live up to others' standards. You feel
you need their approval in order to feel good about yourself.
Sometimes you might project your negative evaluation of yourself onto others and believe they hold as low an opinion of you as you do. If someone does judge you, remember, their judgment is about them - their beliefs and value systems - not yours. Someone's judgment can only make you feel bad
if you buy into it and believe it's true.
Being an approval seeker can make you an easy target for manipulation and abuse. As long as you're dependent on the approval of others, you are subject to their whims – essentially a puppet on a string. If you get their approval you feel good; if you don't, you feel like crap. This is a very flimsy foundation
to base your self-worth and happiness on.
When you approve of yourself, you’re free to be who you truly are. If people approve of you, it’s nice but not necessary.
Here’s an exercise to help you remember your awesomeness.
Make a list of all the things that are great about you. List your personal qualities, physical qualities, and all your accomplishments. If you have trouble listing your personal qualities, ask a loved one what they treasure about you. Review this often. When you’ve got an event to attend, read this over before you go.
It’s easy to get caught up in
what’s wrong about yourself, especially if you don’t like being overweight, but you need to remind yourself frequently, there is so much more to you than a body. Sure, it’s nice to look good but you have a mind, heart, and soul and they have much to offer the world.
Real beauty is a light in the heart and needs to be cultivated. Self-love and
acceptance isn’t something others give you; it’s a gift you give to yourself…and that is the most priceless gift of all.
Today, I look at my people pleasing tendencies. Am I still looking to others for approval and validation?
Affirmations
I approve of myself.
It's my own opinion of myself that truly matters.
I am a person worthy of my
own love and approval. I begin to give it to myself right now.
I am worthy simply because I'm alive.
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