I have been coaching women, and some men, for well over a decade now. During this time I’ve had many extremely successful, accomplished, and talented women as clients.
As their coach, I’ve been privy to their hopes, dreams, secrets, fears, and insecurities.
And one thing stands out for me. No matter how much a woman accomplishes most feel inadequate and insecure if they don’t feel good about their appearance, especially if they are overweight.
Most women feel tremendous pressure to live up to societies’ expectations that a woman be attractive and a normal weight. This makes it really hard for a woman to own all her other accomplishments. She can be the greatest mother, a great wife, and have a successful career, and still feel like a failure.
It makes me so sad that so many women
define themselves this way and can’t fully own the totally of themselves. Their self-worth is defined by their body, but this is because our society still often defines a woman by her appearance.
The saddest thing I encounter are the women who are now much older and have spent most of their lives in this struggle. Because they’ve been so consumed by their struggle, they have had no energy to go
after their hopes and dreams. Many have told themselves that only once the weight is gone, will they go after their dreams. For many, this day has never come.
The years have passed and they’ve never fully developed themselves or gone after their dreams. Many feel it’s now too late for them. The true cost of food and weight obsession is an unlived life and it is such a
sad way to waste one’s one and only precious life.
