Hi ,
In our society, what often passes as "nice" in women is often passivity, compliancy, people pleasing, and martyrdom. Women who are assertive and more vocal with their opinions are often labeled bitches, even though they aren't being mean or acting with malice.
There's a good reason why nice girls often finish last and/or get fat. The woman with a good strong bitch inside of her can navigate the world better. She knows what she wants and can be direct in asking and getting it. She's not going to passively wait around expecting somebody to hand it to her, say yes when she means no, and she's not going to tolerate a lot of BS and abuse, whether emotional or physical.
A good bitch is a woman who knows her worth and can stand up for herself. A bad bitch is all about manipulation: she's mean, and uses and steps all over people to get what she wants. Every woman needs to develop her good bitch. In some circles, it's called a backbone.
Do you say yes when you mean no? Are you afraid of disapproval? Many people, especially women, are overscheduled because they can't say no when asked to take on more than they can handle. This leads to feelings of resentment and overwhelm which in turn leads to overeating. It’s also very hard to schedule any “me” time if you’re overscheduled. Self-care and stress management are essential to any good weight loss and/or emotional eating program.
People pleasing and approval seeking are two of the main reasons why women fear to assert themselves. To be true to yourself, you have to let go of the need for others' approval and if you’ve been brought up to put other people’s happiness before your own, this can be a tough thing to do.
Do you say yes when you mean no? Has this lead to resentment, overwhelm, and overeating?
If so, start practicing your right to say no. To get some practice, start with little things that don’t have major consequences. Then begin to say no to more important things that you don’t really want to do. Yes, you may ruffle some feathers. After all, if you’ve been saying yes too much, that’s what people begin to expect of you. We train others how to treat us.
So, begin to say no when needed, let the chips fall where they may, and hopefully they will stay away from your hips!
Affirmation
I exercise my right to say no.
Blessings,
Catherine L. Taylor
P. S. If you're ready to make peace with food, I'd love to be your guide. How you do food is how you do life!
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