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All the lonely people. Where do they all come from?
~Eleanor Rigby, The Beatles
Overeating is often a disease of isolation. In the beginning, we may isolate ourselves so that we can be alone with our drug of choice: food. As overeating begins to take over our lives, our lives become smaller. We may isolate out of shame, secrecy and embarrassment over our size and behavior.
We may become depressed, anxious and despairing over our behavior and overeat to soothe these painful feelings. But the more weight we gain, the more we despair; and then we’re driven to eat, stuck in a vicious cycle. Desperate, we may try to diet, with our critical shaming internal voice prodding us to lose weight quickly and perfectly; and when we fail at that, well, what’s the use? We go right back to overeating … and the cycle goes on!
The antidote to isolation is connection. The first connection we need to make is to ourselves. Overeating disconnects us from our thoughts and feelings. We need to establish a connection to ourselves by paying close attention to our thoughts and feelings. We can practice checking in with ourselves during the day to notice what we are feeling and thinking. We can also keep a journal where we keep track of our thoughts and feelings and begin to notice what thoughts
drive our overeating
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We also need to make a connection with our deeper wisdom - our intuition, or to the God of our understanding, or a Power greater than ourselves. This provides the strength, nourishment and grounding that will propel us forward on our healing journey. We can do this through meditation, yoga, prayer, being in nature, art, or some other meditative type activity.
We also need to connect with other people through a support group, forum, friend, or support coach. Connecting with others lessens our compulsion to overeat. It gets us out of our heads and back into life. Support groups can be especially powerful because we come to the realization that our problems are not unique to us and listening to others’ struggles gives us a better understanding of our own.
Service work or mentoring others is a great way to get out of ourselves and give back. Giving makes us feel good. As we share our experience, strength and hope with others, we in turn are nourished. We feel less alone and our burden is lifted. There truly is strength in numbers. We are all connected, and as we nourish our connections, we do our part in the healing of the world.
Am I alone in my problem? The solution is beyond me. I must reach out to connect with it.
The longer I isolate, the bigger my problem gets. Reaching out to connect with others and my Higher Power soothes my compulsion to overeat.
Are you ready to come out of shadows of overeating and return to the lite? How you do food is how you do life! ® Contact me for a free consultation!
Client Success Stories
Quotes
- Formula for happiness: out of self = out of mind = happiness!
―Catherine L. Taylor
- When you're surrounded by all these people, it can be lonelier than when you are by yourself. You can be in a huge crowd, but if you don't feel like you can trust anyone or talk to anybody, you feel like you're really alone.
―Fiona Apple
- So many people are shut up tight inside themselves like boxes, yet they would open up, unfolding quite wonderfully, if only you were interested in them.
―Sylvia Plath
- In order to have friends, you must first be one.
―Elbert Hubbard
- Loneliness is the poverty of self; solitude is richness of self.
―May Sarton
- We must become so alone, so utterly alone, that we withdraw into our innermost self. It is a way of bitter suffering. But then our solitude is overcome, we are no longer alone, for we find that our innermost self is the spirit, that it is God, the indivisible. And suddenly we find ourselves in the midst of the world, yet undisturbed by its multiplicity, for our innermost soul we know ourselves to be one with all being.
―Herman Hesse
Weekly Affirmations
I show a friendly interest in others.
Getting out of myself helps me to forget about my problems.
Sharing my burdens lessens my load.
I am ready to cultivate new connections.
I am learning to enjoy my own company.
I share my own experience, strength and hope with others.
I am open to learning from others’ experiences.
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Let's face it, it's hard to stay motivated and focused. That's why I created my new How You do Food is How You do Life Facebook Community.
It's there to give you daily
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