In our society, what often passes as "nice" in women is often passivity, compliancy, people pleasing, and martyrdom. Women who are assertive and more vocal with their opinions are often labeled bitches, even though they aren't being mean or acting with malice.
There's a good reason why nice
girls often finish last and/or get fat. The woman with a good strong bitch inside of her can navigate the world better. She knows what she wants and can be direct in asking and getting it. She's not going to passively wait around expecting somebody to hand it to her, say yes when she means no, and she's not going to tolerate a lot of BS and abuse, whether emotional or physical.
A good bitch is a woman who knows her worth and can stand up for herself. A bad bitch is all about manipulation: she's mean, and uses and steps all over people to get what she wants. Every woman needs to develop her good bitch. In some circles, it's called a backbone.
Do you say yes when you mean no? Are you afraid of disapproval? Many people, especially women, are overscheduled because they can't say no when asked to take on more than they can handle. This leads to feelings of resentment and overwhelm which in turn leads to overeating. It’s also very hard to schedule any “me” time if you’re overscheduled. Self-care and stress management
are essential to any good weight loss and/or emotional eating program.
