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The most adventurous journey to embark on; is the journey to yourself, the most exciting thing to discover; is who
you really are, the most treasured pieces that you can find; are all the pieces of you, the most special portrait you can recognize; is the portrait of your soul. ― C. JoyBell C.
All humans have a desire for self-actualization – the need to actualize and fulfill one’s potential. This often shows up as a desire to be and become more than who we
currently are. If we don’t take active steps in this direction, we are often plagued by a sense of dissatisfaction, emptiness or sense that’s something’s missing. Often underneath the desire to lose weight and/or get healthy, is the desire to self-actualize and become whole.
We become whole by tenderly patching the discarded parts of ourselves into the loving quilt of self-acceptance. Wholeness
requires embracing our full humanness – our weaknesses, strengths, full range of feelings, our darkness, as well as our light.
Many people practice spirituality lite – meaning they only want to feel good or embrace what’s good about them. Unfortunately, this only creates a divided sense of self.
A whole self is a mixture of light and dark. When you avoid or repress parts of yourself, you create weakness and imbalance. This often leads to acting out.
Much of emotional eating is an avoidance of
self. Why? If we had to face the truth about ourselves, we may have to change. Or, we don't want to face our dark parts: our greed and selfishness, our pain, fears and ego, or what we see as weakness. The only way to change these things is to face them with awareness, love, and compassion. Then, they begin to soften and transform.
Real transformation isn’t bliss. It takes courage to get down and dirty in the muck of our own darkness to find the real nuggets of gold. This means being willing to face ourselves with total honesty. It means owning up to all the ways we block our light and growth.
People are often loathe to admit to their own faults and weaknesses. They falsely think this
will make them an inferior or a bad person. This is a lie. There are no perfect people and perfection is an unobtainable goal. As long as we’re alive, we will be works in progress – we and our lives will never be a finished product. When we can let go of our false aspirations and expectations of ourselves, we can relax into who we really are and learn to enjoy the journey one day at a time.
Today, I take an honest inventory
about the ways I hide my own light. I list the character traits, attitudes, fears, excuses, and other feelings and habits that are keeping me from being my true and best self. A true weight loss transformation becomes possible when I am fully honest about who I am and where I’m at.
I must get real and face the darkness in myself in order to bring myself into the lite.
Catherine L. Taylor
P. S. If you're ready to make peace with food and lose weight without dieting, I'd love to help you. Contact me. I offer a free consultation!
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