Why You Can't Let Go of Food and Weight

Published: Tue, 10/06/20

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Many of us have a hard time letting go of overeating as a coping tool, even though the costs outweigh the benefits. It’s often because we’re receiving deeper payoffs from the behavior. These are called secondary gains. Because of these secondary gains, we may feel ambivalent about losing weight and moving forward. A part of us intellectually wants to move forward but a deeper emotional part of us may be afraid. This ambivalence often shows up as self-sabotage.

Ambivalence can be confusing. We may say we want something, like losing weight, and yet fear it as well. This results in us saying one thing, yet doing another. It’s important to question and look below the surface of these fears. Upon closer inspection, these fears are often irrational. We need to ask ourselves, “What’s the worst thing that can happen?”

We need to acknowledge these feelings and move forward anyway. As we proceed along our weight loss journey, we see that we have blown many of these fears out of proportion. We do have the inner resources to handle the challenges that come our way.

Many women use weight as a protective device. It can be a buffer and boundary. For some women, being overweight makes them feel safe from unwanted advances and attention and keeps them from feeling vulnerable. They like feeling invisible. Weight may be the way they say no to intimacy in their lives. It may also be a way of saying no to taking bigger risks in life, growing up, or it can be a way of getting even with certain people. It can also be a form of rebellion.

And for many, food is often a best friend and comforter. They may be afraid of letting it go and wonder how they can live without it.

It's important to learn healthier ways to meet these needs so that you can leave your food and weight issue behind you. You may need to learn to become more self-assertive, practice saying no and setting boundaries, or even take a self-defense class.

Fall is is a time for new beginnings. In order to have a new beginning, we need to let go of what's not working to clear a space for the new to manifest in our lives.

Question

What behaviors, attitudes, fears, beliefs, people, and situations do you need to let go of in order to have a healthier relationship with food, your body, and your life?

Blessings,

Catherine L. Taylor

http://www.secretsofaweightlossmaster.com

P. S. If you're ready to make peace with food, I'd love to be your guide. How you do food is how you do life!

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