So how do you start to do this?
You begin by taking full responsibility for your actions, feelings, and choices. People with poor boundaries often have a victim mentality. They are
quick to blame others for how they feel or act. They often feel that life happens to them and when something happens, like a bad day at work, they feel entitled to overeat.
By taking responsibility for your choices, you fully own and accept the consequences of your actions. If you want what you say you want (weight loss), you must stop making excuses for your
behavior.
Think about it. How many outs do you give yourself for overeating? It’s a bad day; it’s hot; it’s cold; boredom; stress at work; etc. There is always going to be something wrong or unpleasant to deal with. You have to decide that you’re going to find other ways to deal with life besides overeating.
As far as setting limits with food, your body has a natural limit and boundary in place. Your hunger is the signal to eat and the feeling of satiety is your body’s natural way of saying it’s had enough. Many of the people I work with haven’t felt real stomach hunger in years.
When you become in tune with your body’s real
wants and needs, including the need for sleep and exercise, you will begin to naturally honor and respect your body’s limits. Instead of being driven by head hunger (appetite), you will honor your real hunger and this is where freedom with food lies.
