To complain is always nonacceptance of what is. It invariably carries an unconscious negative charge. When you complain, you make yourself into a victim. When you speak out, you are in your power. So change the situation by taking action or by speaking out if necessary or possible; leave the situation or accept it. All else is madness.
― Eckhart Tolle, The Power of Now: A Guide to
Spiritual Enlightenment
Do you and your friends sit around and complain about your weight? Do you engage in body bashing amongst friends?
Complaining is a destructive force. It tears down rather than builds up. Many women bond by complaining, gossiping, and sharing miseries. Complaining is a favorite activity of passive, stagnant people who have resigned
themselves to mediocre, unchanging lives.
Complaining can be the way people with a victim mentality garner attention and sympathy. Unfortunately, it cements them to the problem, instead of the solution. Complaining simply generates more negative energy which leads to a downward spiral towards more unwanted
behavior.
The antidote to complaining is action. Action generates positive emotions, motivation, and an upward momentum. This is how you utilize the law of attraction to manifest the results you’re looking for.