So how can you change your self-sabotaging ways?

1. Get clear on how self-sabotage manifests in your life and what triggers it. Find better ways to respond. For example, if you find yourself indulging on junk food at home, don't bring it into the house. Find healthier options to snack on. If you find you can't keep to a diet, look at the diet: maybe you're trying to follow something that's too strict and depriving and it's backfiring on you. Or maybe you're not ready to lose weight; you're just telling yourself you should. Wait until you're truly ready and willing to make the changes.

 2.  If you lack confidence in your abilities, ask yourself why. Have you failed repeatedly? You need to look at the reasons why. Maybe it's your methods or maybe you expect too much from yourself. Maybe you need to work on your patience or perfectionism. Get clear on what's really holding you back.

 3. When faced with self-sabotage, mistakes and failure you need to ask yourself some questions.

• What is it that I believe to be true about myself in this situation?
• How is this belief limiting me? What other more empowering belief could I adopt?
• Am I confident I can achieve what I want? If not, why?
• What can I learn from this?
• What would be a better way to respond in this situation?
• What might I say to a friend in the same situation?
• How can I do better next time?
• Are my goals and thinking realistic?
• Am I setting my sights too high or too low?
• How can I reframe this situation so that I can see it in a positive light?

These are empowering questions to ask. These questions lead to solutions, not feelings of inadequacy and failure. 

Begin to notice what you tell yourself when you slip, make a mistake, encounter obstacles, or have a temporary setback. What kind of story do you tell yourself? Is it empowering or is it negative, victimizing, and self-defeating? 

Reframe negatives into positives by using affirmations. Each time you catch yourself, turn it around. You will feel so much better and you will develop the momentum and courage to keep moving forward.

Affirmation: 

When I examine and overcome my hidden motivations, fears, and limiting beliefs, I become a united front and an unbeatable force for good in the world.