If you are longing for words of praise, validation and encouragement, begin to tell yourself those things daily. You will bloom in the loving environment you create for yourself.

— Catherine L. Taylor

Self-love is a choice. It’s a series of decisions that you make daily. It won’t feel natural at first, that’s why you must fake it until you make it. It starts with the decision each day to feel good and be happy. If you’re going through bad times or having a bad day, ask yourself, “What can I do to make myself feel better today?” And then choose something that’s life affirming and self-nurturing. It’s as simple as that.

Self-love also means feeling your feelings and taking the time to honor them. It means deeply listening to the desires of your heart and following its guidance. Self-love also means caring for your body by eating well and moving your body. It means taking care of your whole person: mentally, emotionally, physically, spiritually, and financially. If you neglect one of these areas, you will become unbalanced and you will eventually start to suffer. 
 

Self- love is a verb. How you treat yourself reveals all. Self-love is revealed in your self-talk and how you pay attention to and care for yourself. Do you neglect, criticize, and tear yourself down? Or do you build yourself up with kind and encouraging thoughts, words, and deeds?

Many people don’t want the responsibility that self-love and self-care entails. They would rather play the victim and make other people responsible for their happiness. As long as they can play the victim or blame game, they don’t have to take action and be responsible for their actions.

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Many people see happiness as something outside of themselves. They think they will be happy when certain conditions are met, such as losing weight, or when others behave towards them the way they want them to.