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This is a multi-part article series on narcissism and how it affects overeating.

In part 1, I discussed the roles that narcissistic parents assign to their children and the damage that can result from being given these roles. In part 2, I gave specific steps you can take to begin the healing process. In part 2, I gave you specific steps that you can take to start healing from narcissistic abuse. In this article, I will discuss how to deal with the narcissists in your life.

Whether we come from a narcissistic family, have a narcissistic spouse, friend, boss, or coworker, there is no avoiding narcissists. They are all around us!

I walk every morning in a neighborhood park and as pairs of women go by, I sometimes overhear snippets of their conversations. They are often talking about having a problem with someone, and usually they are describing someone with narcissistic traits. I also notice the same thing when my clients complain about certain people in their lives. Dealing with these people can drive anyone to food to cope!

It's important to know how to deal with difficult personalities as they are often toxic to our well-being, whether they are narcissistic or not.

The Grey Rock Technique

The Grey Rock Method is a technique to deal with narcissistic behavior or other types of toxic people. The key point is to develop a neutral stance and not reveal anything interesting about yourself to the other person. You go grey rock and become disengaged with them and they find you uninteresting and unresponsive, so they lose interest in you. 

Protecting Your Energy 

When we must go to a gathering where we know there will be toxic individuals, or if we’re prone to taking on other people’s energy, I recommend The White Bubble Technique. 

The "White Bubble Technique" is a visualization method used for personal energy protection. It involves imagining oneself enveloped by a bubble of white light, serving as a shield against negative energies and external influences. This practice is common in meditation, Reiki, and mindfulness disciplines.​

Steps to Practice the White Bubble Technique:

Find a Quiet Space: Choose a calm environment where you can sit or stand without interruptions.​

Relax and Center Yourself: Close your eyes and take deep, slow breaths to achieve a relaxed state.​

Visualize the White Bubble: Imagine a radiant white light emerging from within, expanding to form a spherical bubble that completely surrounds you.​

Set Protective Intentions: Mentally affirm that this bubble allows only positive energy to enter, deflecting negativity.​

Maintain the Visualization: Hold this image for several minutes, reinforcing the sense of protection and tranquility.​

Regular practice of this technique can help maintain emotional and energetic boundaries, especially in challenging or toxic environments.​

Social Situations

Before you go into social situations, envelope yourself in the white bubble. When someone says something triggering or negative, imagine the comments bouncing off the white bubble. 

Once you get home, sit down, on the floor or even on the toilet, and imagine that any negative energies are being released from the bottom of your spine and tailbone. Visualize them as a dark grey smoky energy. Imagine the energy is returning deep into the bowels of the Earth, to be transformed back into light. Now imagine, white light coming into your body from above your head. See yourself filled with the white light. Visualize yourself surrounded and protected by the light.

These are but a few of the techniques I teach my clients to protect themselves from negative people and energies. Try them and let me know if they work for you!

I hope you have enjoyed this series on Narcissism. If so, please respond back and let me know! Without your feedback, I have no idea if my content is resonating with you!